IRL YAN

Despite how it looks, irl yan is not a term used to say you are the real depiction of a yandere. IRL YAN is a coined term by the IRL YAN coping community. Reclaiming the term IRL YAN as a way of saying “ I use the term yandere to cope “.

This is because yandere comes from the words yanderu , to be mentally ill or sick. And deredere , to be cute and lovey dovey.

Being mentally ill is not inherently going to make you violent or a bad person and the community uses the fictional exaggeration of yandere to cope with intrusive thoughts , dissociation , OCD , BPD , NPD , codependency , anxiety , and depression… the list goes on. Though the coping mechanism can be used in a somewhat albeit manner , this doesn’t go for everyone within the community.

There are also other communities such as the lovesick recovery community for IRL YANS.

Real IRL YAN : “ yeah I’m an irl yan , I use the term to cope “

Fake IRL YAN : “ UwU I’m a yandere for real stabby stabby “

Toxic IRL YAN usage : “ Yeah , I’m an IRL yan , I will literally try to attack him if he talks to another female “

Healthy IRL yan usage : “ I’m an IRL YAN , but I don’t act out on the belief of actually being the fictional depiction of yandere by using violence. “