A term coined by American Psychologist Albert Ellis explaining that if you look at the things that anger, upset or frustrate you, 99 % of the time, you have a MUST, OUGHT or SHOULD in your thoughts.
Parents:
You really shouldnât buy that much alcohol...
Their kid:
Well yâall really shouldnât be doing a lot of things, but you donât see me getting into your goddamn businesses.
Both the parents and the kid had a SHOULD/SHOULDNâT in their thoughts leaving them musturbating.