Messy Queen

A pejorative term used in queer communities of color to identify a fellow member more focused on using social gatherings to spread discord and dysfunction than love and community, Often times creating drama where none natural occurs.

Friend 1: “who all going to be there?”
Friend 2: “just me and Andy”
Friend 1: “Chile, I can’t with that one. She’s a messy queen who’s always starting some sh**.”

Look at the ears

A theory used by black matriarchs to predict the degree of melanin expression in skin pigment, as even brown-skinned black people are often born as light skinned babies.

New parent: I don’t know how that’s my baby? It’s so light!

Great grandmother’s aunt (leaning in close to babies head for a better vantage point): You’ve got to look at the ears