Gazalighting

Psychological manipulation where one who attacks another uses the response to gain sympathy for their actions.

Alex: "I noticed you told everyone about the disagreement we had, but you left out the part where you were shouting."

Jamie: "Well, I was under a lot of stress. It's not fair how everyone is piling on me now."

Alex: "That's gazalighting, Jamie. You're omitting your role in the escalation and then making yourself out to be the one who's being targeted, all to gain sympathy."