massey

Someone who after befriending actively alienates you from your existing friend groups.
These people are cunning and outgoing, usually with some personal affliction that they use as a means to justify their actions to themselves.
The friendship that is established is used as a means to extract information about their target (personality flaws, insecurities, inner thoughts, goals, opinions etc.).
This information is then conveyed in a passive aggressive manner to others.

Easily identifiable by one key attribute: the image that is created about the person they are talking about will at first harshly clash with their targets personality (though at the time, the passive aggressive manor of the delivery of this information will not invoke concern or doubt in what is being said). However, if the victim is not warned and/or remains oblivious to this betrayal, clear similarities in what is being said about them will be seen in the behavior of this victim.
e.g.:
1) The rumor that a target is irrationally paranoid hits a school from a friend of this target.
2) No one confronts the target with this information.
3) The target becomes apparent that something is being said about him or her behind their back.
4) Paranoia is evoked in the target.
5) The credibility of the lie is increased and positive associations with the teller of this lie are propagated while the discreditably of the victim is increased.
6) The lie becomes truth and is actively seen in the victim.

"She's completely masseying his ass. It's so god damn funny. The poor asshole doesn't even know it."

"That's a typical masseyer if I ever did see one."

"Douchbag, that a fucking lie. You're being massey right there my friend. Cold!"

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