Emotional Vampire

An individual that sucks the life out of your emotionally.

She is toxic, in her own misery she will suck the life out of you, she is an emotional vampire.

emotional backfat

Awkward, unattractive, or unhealthy emotional or mental traits mostly invisible to the person possessing them but evident from to others is in their vicinity from certain angles. Neither necessarily unattractive nor inherently desirable.

“Sure, I’ve got some emotional backfat; it gives me an extra layer of protection against the icy chill of your critiques.”