the act of completely messing up a great situation by bashing yourself and dealing with your own personal problems rather then helping out the ones who really need you
Guy1: Yo man go help out your girl! She is sitting by herself and crying and all you do is Pulling A Jay
Guy2: Nah sorry man I'm hating my self rn
Basically if you 'pull a jay' you force to make your friend's character (or oc) a top.
Dude.. are you pulling a jay right now?
Sorry man, I just can't help myself!
Going out to eat with someone, feigning illness, and leaving before the check comes.
I went on a date with this guy last night, but he did totally pull a Jay.