Volcel

A person who's totally missing his partner (due to any reason, e.g. many miles of distance etc.).
No dearth of either horniness or willing members of the opposite sex ...
But a Volcel can only go with partner ... and is not just ready, but also happy to wait to be with partner (because time is best devoted to working to be with partner).

Can't get laid but wants to = incel
Can but doesn't want to get laid = celibate
Can but doesn't want to get laid with anyone, but only with partner = volcel

Susan: "My husband was a volcel during his time abroad".
Being separated by the tallest of mountains and the blackest of seas, we've been volcels for a while.

Volcel

Selectively sexual (e.g. monogamous), celibate due to other reasons e.g. currently far from partner.

Tom: "Bro look hot girl we got her, wanna ping her pong?"
"No bro, I'm Volcel".
Pvt. Paul: "Bro we're in the Red light district, wanna hit up a hooker?"
"No bro, I'm Volcel".