the act of completely messing up a great situation by bashing yourself and dealing with your own personal problems rather then helping out the ones who really need you
Guy1: Yo man go help out your girl! She is sitting by herself and crying and all you do is Pulling A Jay
Guy2: Nah sorry man I'm hating my self rn
Basically if you 'pull a jay' you force to make your friend's character (or oc) a top.
Dude.. are you pulling a jay right now?
Sorry man, I just can't help myself!
What a guy calls a girl who is a friends with benefits, is used in public to keep secrecy
Friend: "why cant u hang out tonight"
The dude: "im taking a trip to jay-town."
Friend: "oooh gotcha."
Getting jayed is when you get surprised by Jay and have to Jay someone else
Haha get Jayed loser now you gotta Jay someone else