An abusive male behind closed doors (typically a former incel) who overcompensates by acting winsome or pseudo intellectual in public.
Karen: Aw, isn't Steve adorkable?
Me: That softboi has wokefished you too? He sent dick pics to my grandmother last week!
An 'effeminate' cis man who weaponizes his (pose of) emotional intelligence and pseudo-intellectualism in order to lure women into bed (or, failing that, into sending nude photographs). He presents his extreme horny-ness as a romantic sensibility. If his attempt at seduction proves a failure, the softboi may become defensive and even abusive, displaying an incel-like entitlement to sex.
Hobbies include: writing terrible poetry, pretending to read Nietzche, listening to The Smiths, wearing chipped black nail varnish as though its a radical statement, smoking rollies, gas-lighting, wanting a medal for calling himself a 'feminist' while actually being a raging misogynist, proclaiming himself a sex-god while repeatedly failing to locate the clitoris, starting sentences with phrases such as 'you probably have't heard of insert incredibly well-known musician/writer/director'.
'He literally said to me 'I'm not like other guys' - total Softboi'
'Oh god... I think I went on a tinder date with that Softboi. He asked me if I'd heard of Tarantino.'
Someone who shows characteristics of an innocent man but in reality is a sociopath.
Samuel is a softboi, I heard he molests animals.
An E-softboi is pretty much the softboi and th E-boy combined, the aesthetic of the softboi without the fuccboi personality
Girl A: wow, did you just see that E-softboi he is so perfect
Girl B: he is perfect!
the opposite of a brogrammer.
An atypical software engineer, who doesn't identify with the leetcode grind, goes on tinder dates and does things outside of being a techies.
boy: ya I do yoga and read tarot cards. I don't wanna talk about my tech job.
girl: you're a softboi engineer
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