Paradox of the responsible adult

"Paradox of the responsible adult":
advocate or companion says exactly same as patient: former listened to, latter barely acknowledged/too articulate to need help or support.

Suddenly begins to feel like invalidated, ignored, infantilised,or spoken-at by professionals - irrespective of needs, urgency, complexity, education, age, or life experience.

Always the same issue with advocacy and experiencing same 'paradox of the responsible adult', no matter how old or educated.