Righteous Gaslighting

A restorative act of helping someone embrace forgiveness—both giving and receiving—by lovingly challenging their perception of guilt, shame, or unresolved conflict.

It involves gently leading them to understand that through true forgiveness, the past is erased, as promised by God’s mercy and grace. This approach seeks to restore relationships and align hearts with the divine principle that forgiven sins are no longer remembered.

Biblical Anchoring
Jeremiah 31:34 (KJV):
“For I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more.”
• Connection: God’s forgiveness is absolute and restorative. Righteous gaslighting reflects this by encouraging people to fully accept forgiveness as a clean slate, rather than clinging to past sins or grievances

Examples of Righteous Gaslighting
1. Forgiving Others:
If someone says, “I can forgive them, but I’ll never forget what they did,” you might gently challenge this with, “True forgiveness means letting it go entirely—like how God forgives us and remembers our sins no more (Jeremiah 31:34). Can you trust Him to help you erase the past?”
2. Accepting Forgiveness:
When someone insists, “I don’t deserve forgiveness,” you could respond, “God says otherwise. Psalm 118 reminds us that His mercy endures forever, and He restores us as a new creation.”
3. Rebuilding Relationships:
If a person holds onto old grievances, you might remind them, “If God has forgiven and forgotten your sins, shouldn’t we do the same for others? Imagine what healing could come from letting the past truly stay in the past.”

Righteous Gaslighting restores hearts by reshaping perceptions of forgiveness, aligning them with God’s truth: that forgiven sins are erased, and each day is an opportunity to rejoice in a restored relationship with Him and others