tempting & distorting

(noun)
a behavior characterized by the act of employing sarcastic or crude remarks with the intention of enticing a person into participating in a joke, followed by using their response out of context and treating it as if it were a serious statement.

This practice involves luring individuals into engaging in a conversation or reacting emotionally, only to later exploit their words or actions to embarrass or humiliate them. Tempting & Distorting commonly employs misdirection and manipulation to achieve its desired effect, often at the expense of the targeted individual.

"You were tempting & distorting by talking in an amusing tone"