perfection abuse

Demanding a level of commitment from someone in a relationship, as if they should have read your mind. A way of keeping someone focused on their own faults, keeping you safe and secure from reproach.

With my girlfriend, not only did I have to remember all the holidays and what we did and wore that day, I had to remember everthing we said to each other and know what kind of gift she wanted and how I was supposed to present them to her. What a perfection abuse hell I had to live through!!