When you go above and beyond and take on extra tasks, but regardless how kind and helpful you are, the people you are serving hold you in negative regard and only expect you to do more. They label you as lazy to manipulate you into accepting additional tasks. Like Cinderella.
“Excuse me, Miss, you seem to have missed a spot cleaning the floors today. All you must do is stand around. Why aren’t you ever working?”
“Sounds like a case of unconditional negative regard. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.”
“I ordered a hot chocolate with 3 ice cubes. Not 4! You never do anything right.”
“I guess it’s impossible to please you. I have your unconditional negative regard.”