Needless escalation of a tense situation followed by victim-playing on the part of the person who escalated the situation when their escalation turns against them.
I treated my cat's injury after he Wisconsin self defense'd a squirrel. He never learns
A self-defensive eye roll: a justified rolling of the eye, after another person has rolled their eyes at you.
1: don’t roll your eyes at me
2: you did it first it’s a self-defensive eye roll
3: okay fine that’s true