fem

Abbreviated from the word feminine, fem refers to a person on the LGBT spectrum who demonstrates behaviors that are stereotypically associated with women. Most often, these behaviors are exaggerated in an effort to fetishize femininity. For instance, a fem gay man might wear makeup or use animated hand gestures. A fem lesbian might make a point to wear dresses or carry a purse.

The use of the fem label may be used within the gay community to insult one's manhood or lack of masculinity.

Antonym (opposite) of the word masc

"Honey, those nails are on point, the face is beat, and the hair is snatched. Fem queen is stunting tonight."

"No fats, no fems, no asians" (derogatory usage)
"So you're lesbians, right? Which one is the fem and which is the guy?" (unintentionally derogatory usage)

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masc

Abbreviated from the word masculine, "masc" refers to physical and personality traits stereotypically associated with heterosexual cisgender men. The term is most often used on gay dating apps and websites to describe oneself or one's ideal partner. "Masc" fetishizes and exaggerates the notion of what it means to be manly, adding to the culture of toxic masculinity within the gay community, especially among men of color.

Antonym (opposite) of the word fem

"Masc only, no fems."

"I'm masc and you should be too. No purses over here."

"Bottom seeking a dominate masc top"

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trade

A young hyper-masculine looking gay man, usually black or latino in urban contexts. Trade typically dress in urban clothing and play to the thug stereotype. The term "trade" originated from the notion that these men were only gay for pay-- thus they would "trade" sex for money. In recent years, the term has come to refer to any gay men of color who dress in hip-hop inspired clothing and play into the masc fetish.

"Damn he's so fine... is he straight or is he trade?"

"The Firplace in DC be packed with trade."

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