Grady-giving

Indigenous to the Grady clan of Northern Kentucky, a dysfunctional abusive Irish Catholic Family that will pretend to give financial help to their children, but then rescind it if their children's behavior does not please the parental Grady giver. Banishment and expulsion and public shaming of the child is also a tenet of the Grady giver parent. Mostly done by the daughters of Pop Grady. Steeped in deep mental illness and "pass it along" abuse trauma from Pop to the four daughters, essentially reenacting the physical psychological and financial abuse and personal shaming that is inherent to the Grady patriarchy. Granddaughters of the Pop Grady patriarchy are even participating in this practice with their own children and their own brothers and sisters. The Grady clan is mostly located in Kenton County Kentucky but some also reside in Cincinnati Ohio. Very similar to what Caucasians call "Indian-giving".

Mom said she would help you purchase a used car since you were struggling, but she will take it back if you don't show up to Easter dinner, typical Grady-giving. With strings attached false help and false giving.