borderline stalking

Generally someone who *happens* to pass by your house when they get the urge to "see" you. This person is slightly deranged and/or deluded & have created a fantasy life in their heads with you, the object of desire as their main focus. They believe you are their soul mate. Borderline stalking behaviour includes frequent online stalking.

Borderline stalkers are surprisingly very apt at hiding their rampant obsessions when they fear getting caught by others. They will go to all kinds of lengths to hide their disproportionate feelings when necessary which can even lead to them being cruel.
A borderline stalker is typically a very lonely person with some psychological issues. This type of stalker almost always has a crushing fear of true intimacy; they deliberately seek to "love from a distance". They unconciously pick partners that are unsuitable for them or already unavailable for *romantic pickings*. They may not even have a genuine desire for a real relationship with you - it might be a sexual obsession for instance.Many potential stalkers suffer from some kind of personality disorder such as Schizoid Personality Disorder.

many Borderline Stalkers are driven by fear of abandonment. They refuse to deal with the external reality of rejection by replacing it with a strong inner fantasy life of maladaptive daydreaming and inner dialogues = a 'Fantasy Prone Personality'. They are painfully indecisive about taking action in his/her life. Their worst fear is rejection.

For Example:
A borderline stalker is akin to a secret admirer, they always seem to be in the background of your life like a wallflower.

They are skilled at making their borderline stalking behaviour seem like a coincidence.
"Harry always has lunch at the same time as me in the cafeteria... Sometimes he follows me to class too. He watches me eat and slurp my slurpy. I am sure he is sexually aroused... what a borderline stalker!"

Genuine/Garden Variety Stalker: "Alicia and I have been broken up for 4 years but she still calls and breathes down the phone. It is so freaky. She even leaves empty beer cans on my front doorstep with notes attached to them like *see what you're missing out on*"

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gothic personality

Gothic personality can apply to both goths and non-goths (or "normies" as I like to call them) alike. A person with a Gothic Personality is likely to be more concerned with the *deeper* aspects of life and permeating beneath the superficial. A person with a Gothic Temperament is likely to be highly introspective, philosophically curious, romantic and brooding && artsy and creative.

Other traits that are expectable are:

Interest in reading and literature, passion for music and perhaps playing an instrument, interested in psychology or mythology (anything with a supernatural flair) and open to experience. Someone with a Gothic Personality is more likely to be upfront and honest about the darker aspects of themself such as dark desires; the participation in fetish/what society deems "perverse" such as BDSM etc.

A person with a Gothic Personality often has hidden talents like writing, interior design and computer programming to name a few. A key component of the Gothic Personality is also the desire to remain an enigma against all odds - to retain a sense of mystery about their person. I believe this is the defining characteristic of the Gothic Personality. You can never fully figure them out... You yearn to fully understand them but it becomes impossible in the most uncanny way.

I must mention that not all Goths have a refined Gothic Personality. And I've met normies who seem so "Goth At Heart" that it freaks me out. Another Mystery!

Seriously Janet, I've met this normie guy who is like totally Goth At Heart. He must have been a Goth in a past life or something. A Goth re-incarnated! He is into all the same stuff as me... Psychology, The Occult, Philosophy particularly nihilism, Anarchy, He's also obsessed with sadomasochism and sensations of unreality. He's got a head full of gothic shizzle. All we ever talk about is deep and dark and disturbing. I am impressed by his Gothic Personality. I'm going to sneak up and dye his hair black while he sleeps... mwahahaha...

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