Buttering the Cat

In the disability rights community: attempting to help someone without asking if they need help, or in a way that is not actually helpful (and indeed may be harmful to the disabled person or to others).

Comes from a viral Twitter thread featuring Jorts the orange cat who was having trouble grooming himself. A well meaning but clueless human buttered Jorts in an attempt to teach him how to groom himself. This may or may not have resulted in a different cat being sick from licking the butter off of Jorts.

"Hey, don't just grab my chair; that's buttering the cat!"

"Stop buttering the cat, tonight's homework is easy!"

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