grievance-collecting

A particular variation of the victim card in which a person gains sympathy or social status by amassing experiences of perceived sleights or injustices. Grievance-collecting can be entirely fabricated, true, or a mix of the two. Grievance-collectors can never forgive or see another side of the story, because surrendering any grievance would result in loss of power over other people. Grievance-collecting can be personal, or part of a politically correct group dynamic.

If you call her, she will be angry. If you don't call her, she will be angry. Either way, she gets what she wants, and it will be used against you - because she doesn't actually want to patch things up. She's just grievance-collecting.

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