A psychological manipulation akin to gaslighting, but that is most often originated in family relationships as opposed to romantic relationships. The concept revolves around gifting the victim with inordinate amounts of ham, sometimes disguised as holiday tradition. The ham giver is trying to make the victim fat off of the ham for one of many reasons such as but not limited to: they are jealous of the victim’s success, they are inappropriately attracted to the victim and trying to put an end to that, they think the victim is too thin, etc. Hamlighting is not to be taken lightly and is unfortunately more often than not overlooked under the guise of good intentions.
Idk man, My aunt Tammy gave me an entire ham at Thanksgiving and ANOTHER at Christmas. I think she’s Hamlighting me but I don’t know how to be sure.