apologinsult

an insult made to sound like an apology. the cousin of the backhanded compliment, an apologinsult claims to express contrition but in reality seeks to put the blame back on the victim and make them feel worse.

"i'm sorry i pushed you off that cliff! but if you weren't standing so close to the edge you wouldn't have fallen over, you know. it wasn't a very smart move."

"you can take your apologinsults and shove them up your ass, karen."