Gaytekeeper

A person or group of people within the LGBTQ+ community who try to control, ridicule, or invalidate other people within the LGBTQ+ community, typically targetting certain terms and labels.

They believe that the term in question "isn't real" OR the person in question isn't "queer enough" to pass.

Their sense of entitlement feeds them the fantasy that their status as a mainstream queer gives them control over how other people can and can't identify.

Example 1:

Panphobe: "Pansexuality is just woke bisexuality"

Pansexual person: "there's a lot more to the spectrum of gender, sex, and expression than your narrow gaytekeeper microscope shows you."

Example 2:
Enbyphobe: "Nonbinary people aren't real because there are only 2 genders. Liek did u go to 3rd grade biology???!!1!"

Nonbinary person: "If you weren't a gaytekeeper, you'd know that college level biology says differently."

Example 3:
Transphobe:"TrAnStReNdErS hahA I'm so funny please laugh I need constant attention."
Person 1: "please be kind to me, I'm a person too-"
Person 2: "Don't even bother, they're a gaytekeeper."

Person 1: "No..."
Person 2: "They're too far gone."

Example 4:

Polyphobe: "Polyamory isn't inherently queer."

Polyamorous person: "I'm sorry, are you poly?"
Polyphobe: "No but I'm a lesbian and-"
Polyamorous Person: "So you're just a gaytekeeper..?"

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Gaytekeeping

A kind of gatekeeping specifically found within the LGBTQ+ community (this could relate to either gender or sexual orientation).

"Nonbinary people don't belong in the trans community!"

"Stop fucking gatekeeping, Brenda,"

"Or rather, gaytekeeping ;)))"

"I'm bi and this is my boyfriend ton-"

"Oh you're not allowed here if you're dating someone of the opposite gender. This is a queer safe-space."

"But I'm bi??? I'm still queer even though I'm dating a gu-"

"Not queer enough!"

"I'm a trans guy but sometimes I like to wear my old dresses... am I trans enough?"

"No! You're not actually trans."

"I'm a trans lesbian but I'm butch and sometimes I feel like I have to constantly prove to people that I am a woman."

"But you're not! You're not truly trans! Why transition if you're just going to act like a man anyway?"

"Straight couples shouldn't be allowed at pride!"

"But what if one or both of them are trans?"

"Or bi?"

"Or pan/omni?"

"Or ace?"

"Or aro?"

"Or demi?"

"Or maybe you just misgendered someone?"

"Or maybe they are cis and heterosexual and just are kind and true allies who want to show their support."

"The point is, stop gatekeeping. Pride isn't a place for negativity. Quite the contrary, it's a place for solidarity and support of one another."

Be kind to eachother, kids. We're in this together. Happy pride!

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Gaytekeeper

Someone who tries to control or criticize people for not being queer enough even though it is their sexual orientation. Gatekeeping gayness.

"There is no way you are gay. The way you dress is SO straight!"
"Not every gay person is 'queer eye' stop being such a gaytekeeper."
"You're right. Not all gay people are carbon copies of each other."